When knowledge of my pregnancy spread, I quickly learned that people like to give you a lot of unsolicited advice. Some of this advice was helpful, but most of it was confusing or anxiety provoking. I seemed to hear contrary advice about pregnancy, labor and birth, and even judgement about my birth plan and breast feeding decisions. Even strangers even gave me advice. Some things I learned were encouraging and valuable, and some things weren't. In the end, it all depends on what works best for you. Listen to yourself above anyone else's advice. The truth is that women experience pregnancy, labor, and postpartum differently. Some women have hard pregnancies; others have easy ones. Some women labor for hours upon hours; others have quick deliveries. Some women bounce right back after birth; others take a long time to heal (especially if they had a cesarian section). Yet, all of our journeys share some similarities. Funny enough, these are the things that for some reason no one talks about.
I have compiled a list of things that I found out from living through my own pregnancy that no one ever told me. (Look out for future posts featuring labor & delivery, and postpartum/newborn phase).
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1. Morning sickness is different for everyone. You may not get sick at all, you might get sick once, or you might be like me and get sick throughout the majority of your pregnancy. Morning sickness is rarely restricted to the morning.
2. You may lose weight before you begin to gain (this may also depend on how sick you feel).
3. You will crave carbs (I literally had dreams about bagels and donuts)
4. You cannot eat anything you want - no fish, no deli meat, no soda, etc. etc. etc.
5. If this is your first pregnancy, you might not really start to show until as late as your 7th month. If you have had a baby already, you will probably start to show as early as your 2nd month.
Here I was almost 6th months pregnant, hardly showing and only just starting to gain weight.
6. You will be more tired than you ever thought possible during the 1st trimester, but then you will enjoy renewed energy in your 2nd trimester.
7. The 2nd trimester, before you are carrying a lot of extra weight, you will feel strong, and gorgeous and powerful.
8. You're going to have to pee all of the time... really, ALL OF THE TIME.
9. You're going to be overly emotional, during your last trimester in particular.
10. By the 9th month of your pregnancy, you are so ready to have your baby (and not be pregnant anymore) that you are not even nervous about labor and delivery anymore - you're just excited to meet your beautiful baby (and have your body back).
Pregnancy is difficult and it is important to take care of yourself during this miraculous time - not only for your own well-being, but also for the well-being of your baby. When you start to feel that little being moving around inside of you - that is an amazing feeling that becomes a constant comfort throughout the remainder of your pregnancy. Listen to your body, and trust yourself. Nature will take care of the rest.
After they are born you just want to hold them close and keep them safe. As much as you are happy for your pregnancy to be over, in some ways you wish you could hold on to that feeling of holding them inside of you. That's what makes wraps like SollyBaby so great.